Bride Thinks Her 'Out-of-Control' Mom Is Trying to 'Sabotage' Her Wedding

A bride planning her dream wedding thinks her mom is trying to "sabotage" her big day.

In a post shared on Reddit, the bride detailed the drama at length, starting off by explaining that she is in her 30s and looking forward to marrying her fiancé, whom she described as "her rock" and "by far the kindest and most gentle man I’ve ever met."

However, as the bride happily anticipates celebrating one of "the happiest moments in our lives," she says that her mom seems determined to ruin the experience for her. "I'm pretty sure my mom is trying to sabotage the wedding," she wrote as the title of her post.

"My mom has done nothing but make digs at me, yell at me, try to control the guest list, wear me out and make me cry. All while contributing zero financially and mentally," the bride wrote.

She shared that her mom has made critical comments about her hair — saying it "looks messy" and needs to be cut and lightened — and "yelled" at her for not choosing the venue she preferred. She also claimed that her mom is trying to convince other family members not to attend her wedding.

Increasingly frustrated by the situation, the bride spoke up, telling her mom "how I felt about her treatment, how it just makes me cry and I’m tired of it." But she did not get the response she was hoping for. Instead, the OP wrote, "she called me disrespectful and ungrateful."

The bride also shared some of the important moments her mom has chosen not to be present for amid the lead-up to the wedding, including her dress fitting. She said it's the tradition in her family for the mother-of-the-bride to throw the bridal shower, but when she asked her mom "what would work best for her … she just blew me off" — prompting her stepmother and step-grandmother to step in and offer to host the event for her.

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"Now I’m getting flak from my mom’s side of the family for letting my bonus family plan the s -

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hower," the bride wrote in her post. "My mom has been otherwise absent during this whole process unless she wants to call or text me just to yell at me, make me feel bad or tell me I need to disinvite people who are actively in my life so that she can invite people that I’ve only been around 4 times in my life."

The unfortunate situation has left the bride wondering if her mother — whom she says is currently giving her "the silent treatment" — will even attend the wedding.

"I wouldn’t be surprised if she just no-shows to the wedding to be spiteful or wears white to try to make the day about her," the bride wrote, before asking her fellow Redditors for advice and opinions. "Any other brides have an out-of-control MOB mother-of-the-bride? How did you handle/deal with it all?"

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Many commenters expressed their sympathy to the bride for having to navigate such a difficult situation with her mom at a time when she should be soaking up the joy of the wedding planning experience.

"I'm sorry that you're going through this. You deserve a better mom," one person wrote. "It sounds like you have other women in your life that do care about you via your stepmom and step-grandma, and it's okay to lean on them for that maternal support right now."

Another chimed in: "You have the perfect opportunity here to do nothing. Keep her on silent. The best-case scenario for you is that she doesn't show up because it sounds like if she does she will go out of her way to cause problems. Enjoy a peaceful, joyous wedding minus her. Congratulations."

Some commenters advised the bride to shrug off her mother's negativity and lean into the love and support she's receiving from other family members and friends.

"I’m sorry that you’re dealing with this but please stand up for yourself and set boundaries," one person wrote. "Enjoy your bonus family and family to be and give no more thoughts to her behavior."

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